Thursday, July 27, 2023

Coffins & Confetti by Ruth Graham - Book Tour

Coffins & Confetti (A Celebrant’s Memoir Of Life, Loss & Love)

Following the success of her first book, A Thousand Goodbyes, writer Ruth Graham invites us to join her on the next part of her journey as an Independent Civil Celebrant. She honestly believed she'd seen it all - apparently not!

Once again, we're exposed to the best, worst (and funniest) examples of human behaviour in Ruth's latest memoir,

Coffins & Confetti, but this time the tears and laughter are set against the poignant backdrop of the writer’s own search for true and lasting love.

Written in conversational style with trademark humour, Coffins & Confetti takes the reader on a journey encompassing the darkest corners of despair, peppered with some of the funniest true-life stories you will ever hear.

A letter to life, a memo to mortality but above all, a testament to tenacity, Coffins & Confetti is a book which oozes humanity and hope with the message that if you hang on in there long enough, things will always turn around ...


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Author Q&A
1. What would you consider to be your Kryptonite as an author?
Not getting enough sleep. I just can’t face doing anything when I’m tired, so creativity is the last thing on my mind

2. If you could tell your younger writing self anything, what would it be?
For me personally it would be that I could do it. I was faced with so much criticism from all angles that life was about sheer survival during my younger years.

3. What book do you feel is under-appreciated? How about overrated?
This is a tough one as it’s so subjective. For under-appreciated, could I say my own – lol! As for overrated, who am I to say, but if I was forced then I’d say it was the 50 Shades series. I thought the writing was so bad I couldn’t even be bothered to stay with the sex scenes!

 4. Favorite childhood memory involving books?
Reading Enid Blyton on my bed, fantasizing about living in the Far Away Tree, or going off to board at Malory Towers. I was also captivated by a book called ‘Shirley Flight, Air Hostess’ which I later realised was written by Ian Fleming!

5. If you could dine with any literary character, who would it be and why?
Briget Jones! We could compare stories about our disastrous dates. I know I’d win!

6. What fantastical fictional world would you want to live in (if any) given the chance?
I’m just about getting to grips with here thank you!

7. Did you want to be an author when you grew up?
I knew I could write, but childhood dreams were about going into acting. I  saw Jemima in Chitty Chitty Bang Bang and felt very jealous.

8. If you had to describe yourself in three words, what would they be?
Bohemian, quirky, naughty

9. What is your most unusual writing quirk?
I start a lot of things, then leave them, then go back to them years later.

10. What’s one movie you like recommending to others?
The Menu with Ralph Fiennes (2022). So dark and such an unusual plot.

11. If you could own any animal as a pet, what would it be?
Dogs – they’re the best.

12. Have you ever met anyone famous?
Loads! I used to be a tv walk on artiste. I mention one of the encounters in my book.

13. When did you write your first book?
In my mid-20s. Some awful Mills & Boon type thing. But I kept trying, and the rejections got more personal (as in they changed from standard rejections, to ones with hand-written notes and observations).

14. What sparks your creativity/how do you get your ideas?
I don’t know. Things come out of nowhere in quiet times. I’m very comedy-orientated (I used to do stand-up) so something will flash into my mind that makes me laugh and I’m off.

15. What do you like to do when you’re not writing?
Make music, cook, walk the dog, go to the spa, spend time with my lovely man.

16. What’s a typical writing day like for you?
Honestly, I have never found the luxury of a normal, regular day. Writing gets fitted in around my work as  celebrant so it could be day, evening or early morning.

17. Do you listen to music when writing?
No, I like to focus. I hear dialogue and see scenes in my head, so music would throw that out for me. 

18. If you could have a dinner party with 3 other authors, who would they be?
I loved The Unlikely Pilgrimage Of Harold Fry, so it would be Rachel Joyce. I think Stephen Fry would be good company and also Lee Childs. I’ve no idea how he winds so many plots and characters together.

19. If you had to pick a celebrity to cast for your main character, who would it be?
No idea – I don’t watch tv any more.

20. If you could travel anywhere in the world to write, where would you go?
Somewhere warm with good air con. I’d quite like a villa in Ibiza for the summer.

21. Would you ever write under a pseudonym?
Only if I turned to erotica!

21. Do you have a favorite food/snack/drink when writing (or anytime)?
I try not to eat aimlessly as I’m always on a diet.

22. How do you choose your book covers?
The first one the designer presented to me. The second one I worked out with my partner to include elements of my career (funerals and weddings). It needed to look bright and appealing though – nothing somber.

23. What’s one thing you’d like to say to your readers?
Just a big thank you. And please recommend if you enjoyed. I’m still building an audience.


Author Bio – 

With an eclectic background in music; acting; presenting; comedy; journalism; writing; counselling and teaching (to name just a few careers), Ruth Graham could never have guessed all the skills she’d acquired would be needed for her final role – that of funeral and wedding celebrant.

With no two days ever the same, Ruth travels all over the West Midlands to meet grieving families or happy couples, in preparation for the happiest and saddest days of peoples’ lives.

It’s a huge role, with so many expectations attached – and a lot of pressure to get things right. But as Ruth says, it’s also a huge privilege to be able to bring comfort in times of sadness, or to create something really beautiful and unique for a couple lucky enough to have found their match.

That said, in the great improv show of life, everything doesn’t always run smoothly because it involves humans at their best and worst. The result is endless amounts of material and two books to her credit so far.

The first one ‘A Thousand Goodbyes’ (The Surprising Life Of A Funeral Celebrant) garnered fantastic reviews: Hilarious Un-Putdownable /Moving/Touching/Must Read) from bloggers, industry professionals and the general public.

Ruth is hoping the same for Coffins & Confetti but either way she intends to keep working as a celebrant knowing she’s making a real difference to others’ lives. 


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